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In the Life of an Expat…
In the life of an expat, there are inevitably moments when you’ll miss the place you came from.
Certain holidays and big events top the list, but there are also plenty of small, daily life type things that that make you remember your old life, the people who used to be in it every day, or just “home” itself.
From my experience, those memories are often sparked by smell, which is reportedly your strongest, most reliable sense when it comes to memory. Smell something from when you were five years old and bam! You’re there.
The other day I got a package from my mom full of clothes that hadn’t fit back in my suitcase when I visited a few months ago…and they smelled of her laundry detergent, of course.
*Nostalgia alert!*
The ironic part, though, is that I distinctly remember having a similar experience in America a few weeks into my trip as I sniffed my clothes from here, with *my* laundry detergent smell — enter the pang of missing my life in Italy.
Ah, all in the life of an expat.
A constant push and pull and battle of emotions, contentedness peppered with longing, and happiness churned with sadness, the realization that no matter how consistent and pleasant and wonderful you make your new life (even, for example, if I used the same laundry detergent no matter where I go), there will always be something to remind of you of the other place, the other people, the other life.
It’s quite fitting that while this is one of the hardest parts about being an expat, it’s also one of its greatest blessings.
I know I am ridiculously lucky to have (at least) two places to be nostalgic about.
Buon weekend at tutti!
Introducing Italy’s Own 2 Kids and a Dog
A little advice? Grab a cuppa, as you’re in for a real treat today.
A few weeks ago, I got an email from Alexia, an American living in Rome with her Sicilian husband, two children, and dog Amleto (Hamlet). Alexia directed me to their website, 2 Kids and a Dog, which features family videos.
But wait! Not *those* kind of family videos! These are hilarious and real, but tightly edited so that you’re getting all the good stuff. No, great stuff.
Bottom line: I fell in love with this family immediately.
The videos are absolutely entertaining, but two other important things come across as well: passion and love. This family has a shared passion for the theatrical and man do they *go* for it. I love that!
And speaking of love, the love they share as a family simply saturates the entire experience, so you can’t help but come away with warm fuzzies.
I told you I fell in love.
So today I’m featuring Alexia and her family here on Bleeding Espresso to let the rest of you in on what is sure to become one of the most popular corners of the Interwebs very shortly.
I asked Alexia some questions so you can get to know the family better; after reading, do head over and check out 2 Kids and a Dog; there are introductory videos of family members as well as current and past episodes. *All* worth a look, I promise.
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1. First, can you please introduce your family and tell us a bit more about yourselves?
We are a family of five if you count our dog, Hamlet, or Amleto as they call him in Italy. I’m American born, to a Dad from Memphis and Mom from Rome, Italy. My husband, Nick, is Italian, but he likes to underline that he is actually Sicilian (which according to him is different).
Nick and I are both actors (Nick is also a musician and I am also a writer), and we met in Rome at an acting workshop what seems like decades ago. We were friends for quite a few years, and cried on each other’s shoulders about our respective romantic failures, before Nick convinced me he was my one and only.
2. What inspired you to make that very first video…and then to keep going?
This year marks the fourth edition of our wacky family calendar. In fact, it all started four years ago when Nick and I decided to create a Christmas gift for our close friends and family. We came up with the idea of dressing up as a different family for each photo, and taking self portraits (I mean, we are actors after all).
People found the calendar so funny and intriguing that friends of friends began asking us for copies. The calendar sparked everyone’s imagination, people often asked us things like “How do you get the dog to stay still?” or “How do you get the kids to wear their wigs?” The project snowballed over the years and we’ve had to print more and more copies each year.
This year, to satisfy our fans’ curiosity, we’ve decided to add a new dimension to our calendar. Using video to document our photo sessions, we’ve created a “back stage” of how we make our calendar. Each month has about 12 short videos (about two minutes each) that tell the story of what happened when we shot that particular photo. We air the “webisodes” on our website throughout the month…that comes out to 3 webisodes a week, about 150 a year. (Yikes!)
3. How did you end up in Italy?
I was living in New York, working in a repertory theatre…and I was contemplating making “the move” to the west coast. I went to LA for a recon mission and was hit hard by the fact that every one and their brother, sister, mother and friend was an actor. My move to LA was scheduled to take place in September. That summer I came to Rome (as I often did to visit my mother’s family) and I met an agent by chance. She convinced me to come to Rome…and the rest is history.
4. What are your top three favorite videos you’ve created and why?
As it is a work in progress, we’ve only edited three month’s worth of material, but so far, my favourite videos are January ep 10 “Anger Management“, February ep 4 “There is Something in my Stomach” and “We do it ‘Cause it’s Fun” (our first trailer). I think Anger Management is really funny. Seeing a really cranky, grumpy clown just cracks me up…especially since that clown happens to be my husband.
I particularly love “There is Something in my Stomach” because it shows Nick at his worst…he comes across as a REALLY disgusting pig. I mean, he is a pig (he’s a man) but he’s not sooo bad. The editing has exaggerated his bad habits and made them more extreme. I think most women can identify with me in this video.
I also really enjoy watching our first trailer, “We do it ‘Cause it’s Fun” because it takes all the most dramatic incidents of our calendar making experience and condenses them into 2 minutes. The most painful, the most uncomfortable, the most difficult moments are edited back to back and in hindsight they crack me up (the alternative is to have a good cry). I also find it very entertaining to watch the family in such varied costumes and situations, and have all those different moments concentrated together.
I’ll bet that most people watching the trailer think that we’re a very weird family. However weird, we’ve had a few grown people asking us to adopt them. So I guess we’re weird but fun.
[Ed: I concur with these three, and note this interview was conducted before March episodes were up. From this month so far, I particularly enjoy “Nick’s Late Night.”]
5. How do you come up with ideas/themes for videos? Or put another way, what is your creative process?
We usually start off with a couple of ideas, like “Hey, let’s do a photo as a clown family, and also a rapper family.” Then we look around the house for costumes, if we don’t have what we need we call our friends.
For instance, for the “hospital” photo (April) we put out a message on FB searching for any casts, braces, or crutches. Some of our friends freaked out and phoned us immediately wanting to know what had happened. They wanted to know if we were OK and if we needed any help. When we explained it was for our calendar, the were relieved.
But anyway, we were able to get all our “hospital” props that, unfortunately we scared our friends along the way. If we really have trouble finding costumes/props, we go to used clothes stores and scrounge around in the “sale” bins. Once we take a few photos, the creative juices start flowing and we start coming up with other ideas…one photo leads to another.
On the particular day of shooting Nick and I go about our business of dressing the kids in their costumes, putting on make-up, building the set, and whatever happens, we go with it. Then, after the shoot (usually a couple of weeks later so that I can be a bit detached from the material) I look at the footage and “write” the story to each video, based on what happened that day. Then we edit it up and we got ourselves a webisode!
6. Anything else you’d like to add or want readers to know?
This is a real grass roots experiment for us, it’s all home-made and self-produced. Initially, I thought the Herculean task was the photo sessions and the video creation, but now I’m beginning to realize that we’ve entered an intricate world that I have no real knowledge about…Internet! I’m an average Internet user, not a die-hard web-savvy gal. So, I’m learning the lingo, and trying to feel my way around. Hopefully we won’t get lost along the way!
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Well from where I’m sitting, everything looks great, Alexia! Thanks so much for getting in touch and answering some questions.
To the rest of you, I do hope you’ll head over to 2 Kids and a Dog, watch some videos, and get to know the family. Other ways to keep up with the family:
- Follow @2 Kidsand1Dog on Twitter
- Join their Facebook group
- Subscribe to their YouTube channel
Enjoy, and be sure to tell Alexia and the gang that I sent you!
Heating a House in Italy: Meet Our New Stufa
Lest anyone try to convince you that Calabria has a tropical climate, let me assure you–it’s gets *cold* here in the winter, especially the further you go up into the mountains (duh). And I know Cherrye is with me on this.
Seriously, I’ve seen people on message boards claim the temps never fall into the 40s. Please. We have *skiing* here for goodness’ sake!
The temps may not always be low like what I was getting used to in Pennsylvania, but there’s usually a good bit of humidity in the air and once that enters these old stone walls, tile floors, and *your bones*, well, you get the point, right?
Central heating here is rare, and indeed, quite expensive as electricity costs are outrageous. People turn to various solutions for heat: gas stoves, pellet stoves, old-fashioned fireplaces, and my favorite, the wood-burning stove.
This is our first winter in this house, which used to have an old fireplace that did precisely nothing for heating the place (P grew up in the house); it was one of the first things we gutted, in fact. So we’ve been making do with small electric space heaters only when we *absolutely* needed them. Still, I’m not looking forward to my next electric bill.
Even then, wearing several layers of clothes inside the house was normal, and in fact, necessary. I know this may seem strange to those of you who walk around in t-shirts in your house when it’s 30 degrees Fahrenheit outside, but trust me, that isn’t a common scene in Italy even *with* heat.
But then, just this past week, we joined the ranks of the “heated.” P had scouted out wood stoves while I was in America, and neither of us were thrilled with the selection or prices. So when I got back, I took to the Internet. We found something perfect, for a good price (including delivery), and it arrived within a week! I know!
P and his friend left the village in the morning to get the pipes and everything to go with it and had it installed within an hour.
Meet Sammy Stufa and her new best friend, Stella:
I seriously couldn’t love this thing more.
Not only does it heat up the entire top floor of the house, I can even melt my Nutella on top of it so it’s spreadable again! At some point, we’ll put ducts through the house to *really* circulate heat through the place, but as they say in Italy, “pian piano….”
(Hey, don’t forget World Nutella Day is coming up!)
Buon weekend! Stay warm!
My Top 10 Realizations After Being “Home” for the First Time in Nearly Six Years
In my post An American Expat in Italy Goes “Home,” I mentioned that I’d be posting a list of observations, so without further ado, here it is with some photos of “home,” the Anthracite Coal Region in Pennsylvania, thrown in for good measure:
My Top 10 Realizations After Being “Home” for the First Time in Nearly Six Years
10. I don’t like what clothes dryers do to my clothes. They’re *great* for towels and such, but actual clothes? No thanks.
9. It’s really hard to find healthy meal choices in U.S. restaurants that aren’t salads (which, if you don’t watch, can be more fat- and calorie-laden than, say, the steak).
8. Starbucks coffee is OK. I don’t love it, and I don’t hate it, but I definitely don’t think it’s worth the price.
7. Kids grow. FAST. And tall.
6. Having friends that you can see after five or ten years and pick up a conversation like you’ve never left off? Yeah, that’s awesome.
5. Christmas really isn’t the same without my grandparents.
4. I’d get way less work done in the mornings if I could just flip on talk shows. Man they’re addictive. Especially Ellen.
3. People eat out and/or order in a lot more than what I’m used to, which is next to never…and also most food in restaurants tasted *uber* salty to me.
2. On a related note, I really need to learn to make Chinese food.
And the number one realization after being “home” for the first time in nearly six years:
1. I wish my two homes were physically *much* closer together.
Expats, what do you notice after being away from “home” for a while?
Happy 3rd Birthday to ExpatWomen.com!
Today is the third birthday of the wonderfully informative ExpatWomen.com, a comprehensive, global website helping women living overseas.
If you haven’t checked it out yet, I highly recommend doing so.
ExpatWomen.com features the following:
- 1,000+ content pages
- 1,000+ expat women blogs
- 200+ readers’ stories
- Invaluable country resource pages
- Interviews with successful expat women
- Loads of motivational articles
- Inspirational blog and newsletter
- Ongoing contests
- Helpful information for finding items abroad as well as cheap flights “home”
- Much, much more!
And since it’s the site’s birthday, today is the perfect time to stop in, say hello, and have a look around.
P.S. Head over to wish a Happy 3rd Blogiversary to dear Robin’s My Melange as well!