Giveaway: The Separated Woman’s Guide to a Bright Future

Today in honor of International Women’s Day, we have a special guest post and book giveaway geared toward women — separated women, in particular. Just leave a comment on this post by 11:59 p.m. (CET) on Sunday, March 14, 2010 to be eligible for a free copy of The Separated Woman’s Guide to a Bright Future.


Annette Jones is the author of The Separated Woman’s Guide to a Bright Future. In addition to being an author, Annette has an adult teaching degree, has trained as a Practitioner and Master Practitioner in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), and now has a private consultancy practice and also conducts two franchises in the retail environment.

Annette was born in Manchester, England and moved to Sydney, Australia with her parents at the age of eight. In 2000, Annette married her second husband, but after a separation, divorced in 2006. She is now enjoying the fruits of her journey and has a happy, loving relationship on the Gold Coast after previous stays in Zimbabwe, Papua New Guinea, Queensland, and Brisbane.


Hi and Welcome! My book is written to support and guide women through the process of separation and divorce and to inspire women to empower themselves through one of the most challenging parts of their lives. Lots of info, lots of ideas… and lots of fun; this book can help turn lives around!

Before writing my book, I spent many months researching databases on women’s issues and stories and interviewing a range of women who were divorced, separated, married or single. One overwhelming thing came from all of this: that women need to nurture themselves and each other to take control of their lives, loves and futures.

My book developed in three sections:

1. A practical guide to separation: What to do about property, children, money etc.; seeking legal and financial advice from trained professionals who have your best interests at heart (not the dearest but the best for you).
2. Your time following a break up: Nature and nurturing yourself, healing, dreaming, doing and finally re-entering the world of fun and love small steps at a time.
3. Socializing, such as dancing and dating: Whether it is the Salsa, burlesque, jazz, Belly Dancing, Latin Dancing or Tap, go for it! You’ll be amazed what it brings out in you.

This book will make you laugh, cry and think, and I will definitely help you “act.” If you’d like to act right now, here is purchase information for the book.

Some quick tips for “How to Survive Separation”:


1.    Attempt to work things out for property settlement with your former partner.
2.    Be realistic and get the facts about your entitlements in a property settlement.
3.    When you decide on a property settlement, do have a solicitor advise on the settlement.
4.    Monitor your children (if you have them) for behavioural changes.
5.    Make time for yourself every day, time to nurture and care for yourself.
6.    Do surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Girlfriends are wonderful at this time for you. They’ll support you, entertain you, laugh with you, cry with you or just be there for you.
7.    Do take a moment, take several moments to sit quietly by yourself and ask, “Where would I like to be two years from now, what would I like to be doing, where would I like to be living, and how do I want to be feeling?
8.    Get Grateful. What DO you have in your life right now that you are thankful for? Make a quick list of 10 things.


1.   Necessarily employ the best family law solicitor money can buy or one with the most impressive credentials and experience, as your partner may just use a common law solicitor.
2.   Don’t speak ill of your former partner.
3.   Don’t go on a spending spree.
4.   Don’t jump into a new relationship straight away.

I hope you enjoy my book, and I would like to leave you with a final quote:

Find out who you are and do it on purpose.
~ Dolly Parton


Thanks Annette! Remember to comment to enter the contest,

and Buona Festa della Donna!

8 Beans of Wisdom to “Giveaway: The Separated Woman’s Guide to a Bright Future”
  1. 03.08.2010

    such wise tips!

    ”’Get Grateful.”’

    we should all do that every day
    no matter what…….

    not BE Grateful,
    but GET Grateful…

    if you don’t Got Grateful
    go Get Some Grateful.


    {{ BTW, Michelle, i enjoy how you are always
    ~~and without fail~~
    lifting women UP over here at BE. }}

    YES! I love that tip too…and thankyouthankyouthankyou for your kind words. Have a lovely women’s day 😀

    .-= somepinkflowers´s last blog ..deep play and play and play =-.

  2. 03.08.2010

    Find out who you are and do it on purpose.
    ~ Dolly Parton

    I love this quote!

    What a timely post given that I am in the throws of separating from my husband of 10 years. I am lucky that we are doing it as civilly as possible and (so far) have not been tossing too many evil daggers at each other. It has been the hardest decision I have ever had to make – and after 10 years I am wondering who I really am, and hoping I can find my way back to me with humor and happiness to come in my future.

    Many hugs to you, Michelle <3 <3 <3

  3. 03.08.2010

    There is some wonderful advise here for the newly separated. Thanks for posting this.

    Glad you enjoyed the post, Mary 🙂

    .-= Mary´s last blog ..Salt and Pepper Pork Chops =-.

  4. 03.08.2010

    Wonderful pointers and delightful witty wisdom. Love the Dolly Parton quote!
    I am not separated but I nonetheless know how difficult abandonment or any form of separation can be.
    Happy Festa della Donna (and the remaning 364 women days too)

    Eleonora xx

    Thanks Eleonora!

    .-= Eleonora´s last blog ..Branzino al Sale =-.

  5. 03.09.2010

    Thanks for posting that beautiful post of Dolly Parton. I can really relate to it. I totally love it. I have been a long time reader of your blog and I feel so grateful that you share with us much wisdom and knowledge about the different aspects of live. I love reading your blog a night, especially with a cup of hot espresso coffee beside me. Kudos!

    Thanks Michael!

    .-= Michael Cavinta´s last blog ..We have had many Bunn coffee brewer for years in our house =-.

  6. Marla

    The advice is sound. I wish I would have been able to read this a few years ago. Thanks for all the wisdom.

    Thank you for reading, Marla 🙂

  7. 03.10.2010

    This book’s title makes me a little sad. I am sure it can help quite a few people, it’s just sad that it’s even necessary.

    It was nice stopping by, I haven’t come by in awhile.

  8. 03.10.2010

    Great advice–and may I add that a trip to Italy is a great way to take care of and nurture yourself!

Michelle KaminskyMichelle Kaminsky is an American attorney-turned-freelance writer who lived in her family's ancestral village in Calabria, Italy for 15 years. This blog is now archived. 

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Homemade apple butter
Green beans, potatoes, and pancetta
Glazed Apple Oatmeal Cinnamon Muffins
Pasta with snails alla calabrese
Onion, Oregano, and Thyme Focaccia
Oatmeal Banana Craisin Muffins
Prosciutto wrapped watermelon with bel paese cheese
Fried eggs with red onion and cheese
Calabrian sausage and fava beans
Ricotta Pound Cake