conversations with p

When I set off for the Calabrian Women’s Summit 2007, it marked the first time that P and I would be apart overnight. I knew I’d be OK since I’d be in the company of wonderful funny women, but P was left with some alone time–and he used it to be alone, only leaving the house to walk Luna.

So over the weekend, P got some serious thinking in, and here’s the transcript to prove it.

During our first embrace, the following transpired (translated into English–mostly):

P: You know I was thinking…
M: About what?
P: About us.
M: Uh huh. What about us?
P: That we’re like a lamp.
M: Oh? How so?
P: Well, in order for a lamp to work, you need two wires, two forces working together.
M: Continue.
P: A positive (*points to me*) and a negative (*points to himself and smiles*).
M: Right.
P: And when they’re together, they can make something beautiful, like light.
M: *blushes and squeezes him tighter*
P: Or, you know, in our case, like a baby…una famiglia.
M: *double blushes and tears up*

(Just to be clear, no announcements are forthcoming at this point.)


[tags]love, amore[/tags]

30 Beans of Wisdom to “conversations with p”
  1. Paolo

    Bravo P! Ben detto, davvero… chi puo’ essere piu’ romantico d’un uomo calabrese?!?

  2. Waspgoddess

    Oh, that’s so sweet, and so funny. The workings of the minds of men… from lamps to babies. I’m glad he made the connection. He obviously missed you.

    Being a very un-broody person myself, I hope my man has not been thinking about lamps while I’ve been away πŸ™‚

    Thank you so much for your kind words. My dad is coming home today, yay!

  3. sognatrice

    Oh how funny that my first comment on this is from Paolo–who, so everyone is clear, is not my P even though they share a name; I do agree with you, though, Paolo–it was rather well-put, and I, personally, am not sure who could be more romantic than a Calabrian man πŸ˜‰

    WaspG, it’s so good to hear your dad’s coming home! Now only time will tell if your love has been contemplating lamps….

  4. heather

    Beautiful. You have clearly chosen a fabulous man.

  5. Delina

    Ooooh! Exciting! Does this really mean babies? Or are we really talking about lamps? :S

  6. Marmite Breath

    What a sweet man!

  7. Christine

    Whoot! And I’m with Wasp, who but men would come up with something like that?

  8. J.Doe

    That’s sweet It sounds like it took your absence for him to realize your importance.

  9. Sharon

    Ah…Spring is in the air in Calabria.

  10. Paolo

    Well, it would have been funny as hell if it was your man who had posted “Bravo P!” on your blog!

    By the way, I’m a quarter Calabrese myself, so I’m clearly complementing myself as well as your man… and as an engineer, I like the somewhat geeky alternating-current simile he employed.

  11. nyc/caribbean ragazza

    This is so sweet! Who knew thinking about lamps = babies? Ahhh amore.

  12. Cherrye


    THAT is why we love Italian men!

  13. stacy

    That is SOOO sweet! sincerely, cutely, sweet – how could you NOT love him!?!

  14. Frances

    This week’s scribbling prompt was Dream Journey, and your’s sure was a dream – look what you came home to.
    All the best,
    Frances in New York

  15. Caroline


  16. Anonymous

    what a nice story. Here’s to lots of little lightbulbs….vanessa

  17. Shan

    What a nice thing to come home to. You have a sweet man there.

  18. Pola


  19. Johnaesthetica

    Does this mean babies on the way?


  20. Karen

    What a nice, and probably startling, welcome home! I look forward to the chronicles of pregnancy and babyhood when the time comes.

  21. bella

    Heart melting!

  22. Nadine

    That was so sweet. What an endearing thing to say.

  23. Michellanea

    Very sweet!

    No announcements are forthcoming, but everyone seems to have you on the baby path regardles. πŸ™‚

  24. Annika

    oh how sweet and adorable and romantic and … perfect!

  25. Delina

    I’m wondering if P reads your blog… πŸ™‚ He must be flattered by these comments if he does πŸ™‚

  26. sarala

    Aww. You guys are so sweet.

  27. sognatrice

    Delina, no my P doesn’t read the blog (the whole English thing really escapes him), but I’ve shared the comments–he’s actually quite embarrassed! And yes, Paolo, it would’ve been pretty funny had P himself commented on how well he expressed his thoughts…and actually very out of character as well.

    Frances, you made such a great connection with the Sunday Scribblings prompt! Thanks for making me feel a little less guilty that I skipped it this week πŸ˜‰

    Anyway, hopefully someday there will be little light bulbs (and blog chronicles to boot), but since we have yet to hear the “Let there be light” decree, it’ll be a while yet. Of course I’ll keep you posted πŸ™‚

  28. AJ

    Sounds like a very intellectual man…the ability to relate a lamp to the two of you is priceless!!! Sounds perfect πŸ™‚

  29. Italiana Americana

    CHE ROmantico veramente!!!!!! πŸ™‚

  30. sognatrice

    AJ, P’s actually not very intellectual at all–but he is rather sweet and sensitive πŸ™‚

    Italiana, I have to agree πŸ™‚

Michelle KaminskyMichelle Kaminsky is an American attorney-turned-freelance writer who lived in her family's ancestral village in Calabria, Italy for 15 years. This blog is now archived. 

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