Comments on: almond blossoms mean never having to say you’re sorry (sort of)

By: shanghaiexpatwife

shanghaiexpatwife — Thu, 31 Jan 2008 14:37:42 +0000

A beautiful post I missed reading your blog because i didn’t realise it had moved.. yikes.. I’ll promise to be a more regular reader from now on

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By: Pasticcera

Pasticcera — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 10:40:07 +0000

Oops!
Almond blossoms, I mispoke… and not an almond blossom in sight up here ever! perhaps thats why apple blossom tumbled out of my computer…

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By: bella

bella — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 23:01:39 +0000

Hey, sweet girl. It’s a constant and continuing learning process because as individuals, we’re always changing, learning, and growing. I think that if you have a good foundation (as a couple) slabbed together with love and respect, you can come out of most situations on good terms. Z and I have been together for close to 17 years. We’re still learning from each other, but I feel like we’ve come a very long way in the “how to deal with this” department. There were bickering phases, but they’re done. It happens so infrequently now. We do have our yearly blow-up, screamfest when the little lady is at a sleepover that I wish would stop happening! If only there were almond blossoms in NJ to melt his sometimes stubborn personality…

bella’s last blog post..for LaLa

Ooh I know something about that stubbornness. Some nice apple blossoms will work too…heck even some flowering tomatoes

By: Zandria

Zandria — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 22:13:44 +0000

You’re absolutely right — it’s not the fact that arguments occur, but how you deal with it once it happens. That’s something for all of us to remember!

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By: Cleopantha

Cleopantha — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 07:43:18 +0000

And that’s what relationships are all about… discovering our infinite capacity to love

Such a lovely thought

By: Wanderlust Scarlett

Wanderlust Scarlett — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 22:59:44 +0000

Blossoms and kisses... how lovely! They pair together so well. I can't wait to see what you do for Valentines which falls on love Thursday this year; and in a leap year no less! Scarlett & Viaggiatore Wanderlust Scarlett's last blog post..Taking Care Hah, no pressure right?!

By: Taffiny

Taffiny — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 17:06:35 +0000

Sorry about your grandmother,
there is something about thinking about the day someone came into the world, and all the years they spent on earth, after their footsteps no longer walk upon it, that is both really sad, and beautiful.

Thanks Taffiny. My grandmother passed away in 2001, and cliché as it sounds, I still think of calling her every now and again. I don’t know if you’ve read the post I wrote last year for her birthday: A Grandmother’s Influence. It’s one of my favorites that I’ve written

By: Taffiny

Taffiny — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 17:02:51 +0000

Bob and I don’t usually fight, we do sometimes have grumpy days, but we quickly realize we are not upset with each other, but tired, hungry, et. cetera. So we quiet down for a bit, then talk nice later.
Bob is not a yeller, and he is not a swearer or name caller. Thank God, I couldn’t imagine being with someone who was. He is the milder one, I tend to get upset quickly, but to get over it quickly too. I have to watch my tone. I have at times, gotten a bit like some animal trying to puff itself up and seem bigger (by being louder) to seem more threatening so others will take it seriously.
I particularly have to careful with my son, as I get SO FRUSTRATED when he wont get ready for school. The cat is helpful here, if I yell anything, such as “GET down these stairs, we have to go to school RIGHT NOW!”. The kid never comes running, but the cat always does. He comes running like, what is it dear? What is the matter? Are you okay? Are you on fire? Do you need me? And sits at my feet, meowing, and crying up at me. First of all this alerts me to the fact that I was yelling (check one), and secondly I have to take a moment and pet the cat, or else he wont shut-up, this helps me collect myself, and calm the heck down (check two). And thirdly it shows me, a bit mockingly, that unless it is the cat that I wish to come running for school, the yelling thing is not at all working (check three). Puts me back in-check, reminds me to stay in-check next time.

My nana and pop, would have disagreements, and argue over stuff, like politics, but not in a bad way (welll maybe sometimes in a bad way). This actually turned out to helpful to me though, as in recent years, I have found areas where my husband and I differ in our beliefs, areas which really upset me, but then I was like, you are you, I am me, it’s okay, we can be married forever and not share an opinion, but still be happy.

I like the flowers thing.
P.S. The impression of it on me is more romantic than my words show.

Taffiny’s last blog post..just found an odd bit of faded paper

Taffiny, I love you realization about differing opinions; I’m still working on that, I think, which is odd since I’m such a live-and-let-live kind of person. It’s different, a bit, when you live with someone. Somehow.

Your cat is so in tune with you! I love it! My dogs always know when I’m upset–one of my favorite things about them. In addition to their ears. And fur when it stays *on* them.

By: grace

grace — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 14:48:06 +0000

I have read a couple of days ago in Yahoo features that arguing couples (specifically people voicing out their arguments not keeping it to themselves) live longer. How old are your grandparents?

grace’s last blog post..sweet exchange for Valentines

Oh Grace, I’m not talking about arguments, which I think are normal, necessary, and healthy–I’m talking about snipping about what kind of pasta to eat, whether the dogs have been walked, whether one writes on the calendar in blue ro red pen, stupid things, IMHO.

And unfortunately for my grandparents, their bickering didn’t add years to their lives as they’ve both passed away. In fact my grandmother would’ve celebrated a birthday today

By: My Melange

My Melange — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 12:26:45 +0000

My parents never got along either, Sognatrice. I made the same deal that you did…never to replicate that. I think when you make a point of something…you work harder at it. And some flowers never hurt either. I would much rather have some nice handpicked stems than a dozen overpriced red roses from the florist too

My Melange’s last blog post..One Great Loss

I agree with you; when you know what you’re trying to avoid, there’s a tangible goal, something to work against. And no, I’ve never been a rose girl either–except when P snips them from the rosebushes around the village (shhh!)